So I’m pregnant. The big surprise 2014 brought me. It being a surprise, I never really spoke to anybody about what it means to be pregnant. All of my friends don’t have babies yet. My mother seems to have avoided the subject up until now because she didn’t think it would happen for the coming 2-4 years. For me, the past five months have been a kind of rollercoaster. I usually try to come as prepared as possible to all new adventures. Here I simply lacked knowledge about it coming. So, here are some things no one told me about being pregnant (maybe they would have, though, had they know this was going to happen). A little note for all you girls out there who might think about becoming pregnant, now or in the future.
- Has it been five months already? Can we please stop time for a little while? Nine months to prepare yourself for a baby, of which you will almost always miss the first 1,5 to 2. Then the next 2,5 might run by faster than you could imagine, mainly because you feel so sick and sleep all the time. When you finally got the peace of mind again to realize you are going to have a baby, YOU ARE GOING TO HAVE A BABY, only 4 months are left. Use them well. You can also continue preparing
- The baby becomes your instant number one. Which is super awesome. Nature did a good job there. You want to protect the baby from the second you know he or she is there. The love for a person you don’t even know yet, suddenly already exists. Pretty special you guys. But it’s not always very beneficial for your other loved ones and activities. Because you forget. And you forget. And you forget some more. Dear friends and family, it’s not because I don’t love you. It’s just because I’m pregnant, which is apparently comparable to temporary being senile.
- You might start to feel like a ninety y/o granny running a marathon ALL the freakin’ time. No late night dinners for you. No working out after your day-job is done. No big parties to shake that booty. More couch and bed for you. Drooling and snoring included. Passed-out style sleeping… at 13 o’clock… In the subway. And you can’t controle it. I’ve now got my working hours reduced to a maximum of 6 a day. It was all just too much, and it is such a relief to be able to just admit: pregnancy makes me super tired.
- Connected to the point stated above, pregnancy is hard work. I never really gave this one a lot of thought. But of course. Your body is going through processes which we can’t even understand, to make another human being. All is designed so you don’t have to worry about building a child or growing a child. Your fabulous body can do that on its own. Which is actually a great plus, because as my docter told me: when your body would count on you to regulate all hormones, fluids, vitamins, warmth and cold, blood and heartbeats, all of us would not be here anymore. We are simply too stupid. The only thing we have to keep in mind, is that this is a time where your body has to work HARD. So give it a break. Take very good care of it, even if that means working less, sleeping more and losing part of your social life. Really, it is for a good cause.
And now for a final freak-out: I AM HAVING A DAUGHTER. Oh my god. My doctor spoke to me yesterday about ‘my daughter’ being very active (yes she is…). And suddenly I was so overwhelmed. I am having a daughter. A little girl who will depend on me for the first years of her life, who I have to teach about everything. And I feel ready and capable. But at the same time, bless those 4 months I got left. Some more time to read, think and trying to relax!
Any more (never outspoken) experiences with pregnancy more people should know about? Or are you not planning to have kids (any time soon)? Feel free to share!